Five times When NOT to call when you’re JUST DATING

In the beginning, when you’re just dating occasionally in the spare time that’s left, the relationship and boundary building begins from the first attractive contact. Most successful single people have schedules to keep their lives structured. The older we are, the more we value our time and sleep. Follow these time rules to figure out how to get in - on that time.


1. Don’t call Past 10:00 pm on a school night

I refer to work nights as school nights since traditionally kids should be disciplined not to take calls past 10:00 pm if they need to be at school by 8:00 am the next day. This limited activity time frame also applies for those tempting texts that you are urging to send or reply to. Respect the sleep in this overstimulated world of technology.



2. Don’t call before 8:00 am.

Sleep is precious to function properly. Like a school day, most people need a couple hours to wake up and get ready for their day. Until you get to know their routine, how much time they need to prepare for their day, or what speed of a waker upper they are, please don’t wake them up unnecessarily. They may have pushed the snooze button three times on their cell phone and unintentionally hang up on you.



3. Don’t call before Noon or after 5:00 pm on the weekends.

If you’re just dating, then understand they have the freedom to date other people, who they may have brought home from the night before. Don’t call after 5:00 p.m. especially past 7:00 pm on the weekends, they may be on a date. Don’t assume they’re not out with someone else. This can give them the impression you are too creepy eager, checking up on them, or already becoming possessive of their time.



4. Don’t call two hours before you want to go with them- to ask them out.

This is not ample enough time for some people to prepare. Most women need to plan for the occasion. Especially, do not call them on the weekend to plan a date on the same day. This sends a mixed message. This says you may have chosen them as a back up date. Your original date, you planned days in advance with, cancelled. Or you do not have any other prospects and desperate for a date.



5. Don’t call or text more than a few times if they have not answered your first one.

If they haven’t replied to you in a few hours or a few days, this means they may just be busy. It isn’t personal, single people tend to fill their time with a lot of activities with supportive friends and family. As successful people, we have many things to do to maintain that status. Technology and information is taking away a lot of our human connections, so some of us may only have enough time to give short spans of attention to one then move on to the next. Our social media accounts, texts, and emails are usually limited to a certain amount of space and characters to communicate. This spills over into our personal lives.